The first year is the hardest...BUT
When I found out I was pregnant with Luke, and knew my boys would be 16 months apart, I had many moments of anxiety and fear of the unknown. Seeking counsel from many friends with kids that close, the phrase that kept coming up was, "The first year is the hardest, then it gets easier."
Yes, this year has challenged me more than any other that I can remember, but it is also the sweetest year I have had thus far. So many sleepless nights, dirty laundry, messy rooms, weary souls, and physical aches. With that, so many laughs, giggles, hugs, embraces, snuggles, and small victories of growth. I have been brought to tears just thinking of how much I love my boys. They are so different from each other, but each so special to my heart. Here is a short list of things that weary moms need to remember.
1. Time is precious. These phases are actually phases that will change with time. Trials that seem to be daily will slowly shift and disappear as new ones arise.
2. Every day things change a little. Focus on the day, focus on the moment at hand, and try not to jump too far into the future. You will miss out on the little things of today.
3. Babies need their moms. It might seem draining, but they do grow and they are people. They are people who will one day take care of themselves and make a difference in this world. They need to know that their moms LOVE them. So dig deep and give all the true love that you can.
4. Celebrate the little victories! One step, one act of obedience, one little correct answer or polite gesture, celebrate those things well. It can change your own attitude as well as theirs. It can make the next tantrum not as severe to your own heart.
5. Play with your kids. Sometimes taking a moment to really let loose and play with them makes all the difference in the world. They need to see their parents have fun. They need to see silly faces, dancing, laughing and true good natured fun. If they never see their parents have fun, well, I would never want my kids to experience serious me all the time. I'll just put it that way.