9 months old, my personal Everest
A few ways having a 9 month old is a reminder of being 9 months pregnant.
1. You are carrying a 22 pound extra weight constantly! This time, it's not water weight, it's literally how heavy that baby is! 9 month olds want to be held, want that attention, feel the separation and desperation when you choose something other than them to give your attention. Holding your baby can be just as exhausting as being 9 months pregnant, although there is one plus...you do get to set that weight down at the end of the night.
2. All you can think about it how you want to sit down and rest. I have thought about exhaustion pretty much non stop when following a crawling, pulling up, unstable, wobbly little man. Keeping him safe has become such a huge undertaking. I remember the long days of waddling around in the third trimester, and longing for rest, real rest and not being able to get it.
3. You keep waiting for this challenge to be over, which only makes it seem longer. Waiting for a baby to learn to walk is about as fast as watching water boil or paint dry. It will eventually come, but you never know how fast or slow it might happen. It is a two steps forward, one step back journey, and sometimes it really is 3 steps backwards. How vividly I remember wanting the "labor" day to come in order to meet my little one!
4. You are excited about the future but sentimental about the past. I cannot wait for my little guy to walk and start saying words, but I'm getting sentimental about his babyhood being over, being able to hold him while he sleeps, being able to hold him for an hour and not get exhausted. Reminds me of pregnancy, because you want so badly to meet your child, but the journey of pregnancy has some cool moments too, like when you both have hiccups at the same time...:)
5. People say to you, "Rest while you can, you're going to need it" People are ALWAYS reminding you what lies ahead....like they really know what your life is going to be like. Before you give birth, it's constantly, rest while you can, you won't get any sleep soon. Same goes for when you have 2, people say things like "How far apart are they? Oh wow. Yeah, you just wait until he starts walking, then you will REALLY have your hands full." It's easy to let the comments get to you, and really, it's up to you what attitude you will have when it's all said and done. I try to live one phase at a time...sometimes it's easier than others.
6. Your world will change immediately in the blink of an eye. Once you give birth, it's hard to think about anything other than your baby. And once that baby starts walking...it's really hard to remember what it was like to put them somewhere when they can't move from that spot!
7. Patience is growing deeper as you give to someone other than yourself. I thought I learned a lot of patience with my first born, just one child. Then I realized, wow, I have a lot more patience to learn. This parenting thing is hard whether you have one child or 10...we could always use a little more patience with each one that comes our way.
8. It's worth the battle, the hard, and the ugly. There is joy at the end of the day. I don't want this blog to sound negative, just truthful. 9 month olds have been might hardest mom days of babyhood, and being 9 months pregnant was by far the hardest time of my pregnancy. The joy of it all is that the hard days are what makes the good days even better. With each milestone come new challenges, and I'm so happy to be able to take this journey of motherhood!